Meet Big Self and Lil’ Self.

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Your Lil’ Self is committed to thinking, feeling, and acting in childish ways. Lil’ Self colors your perceptions of life, your relationships, and your view of the world. Lil’ Self obscures your potential and hinders the development of your Big Self. You can’t change what you are unaware of, so discovering your Lil’ Self is critical to becoming an accountable, responsible, and independent Big Self who can achieve goals and be successful.

Lil’ Self existed in childhood to help you understand the world, get your needs met, and survive as a child. You grew up and became an adult, but Lil’ Self did not. Now Lil’ Self is altering and affecting your thoughts and decision-making process, to your own adult destruction. Your Lil’ Self distorts what you hear, what you see, what you think, how you feel, and how you act. Ultimately, it distorts your interpretation of others’ intentions. Remember, you do not see life as it is; you see life through the eyes and ears of your Lil’ Self or your Big Self.

Lil’ Self is our hidden barrier to the very thing we want most: to love and be loved. We lose

our sense of wonder, the ability to know truth, and the ability to love and be loved when

our Lil’ Self remains hidden and keeps responding to life like a child. Being alienated from

our Big Self is the result of letting Lil’ Self control us. (Read this again. And again.) It robs us of the vision of who we really are.

Becoming aware of your Lil’ Self is the beginning of a lifetime of transformation. You will learn to appreciate individual personalities and diversities as you recognize and appreciate your own. Your Lil’ Self does not love you. Lil’ Self is committed to survival, but its bravado gives you a false sense of security. Lil’ Self does not have the same goals and vision as Big Self. Without a unified goal, discord will be at every major turn on your life’s journey. You must first bring unity to the diversity within you before you can find unity in the diversity outside of you. You cannot have peace externally until you have peace internally.

Start now. Be your Big Self. To do that, you’ll have to identify your Lil’ Self

thoughts and feelings. You must identify who is doing the thinking. Each

relationship or situation will bring out different Lil’ Self thoughts and feelings.

Let's look at the ones that are affecting you right now.